No matter if you want the divorce or not, a divorce can be depressing.  While the world is constantly changing, we humans constantly resist change.  It is easier to maintain the status quo than to uproot and change our direction.  Change requires doing things in a new and unfamiliar way.

So why do we resist?  It is simple. We resist because we fear the unknown or we fear how others will perceive us.  In most cases, change is good. Change gives us a chance to learn and stretch as humans. And, if you are in a bad or abusive marriage, change can mean a life without turmoil, strife, and terror.  But, all the same, we worry… “Will my life be better or worse if I leave?”, “How will I support myself and my children?”, or “Will someone else ever love me again?”

Much of our thoughts are rooted in our fears.  Fears, real or imagined, can lead to depression.  So how do you avoid being afraid? You must start with taking care of your physical, mental, and spiritual health.  I know, you have heard this before, but it is true. If you do not take care of yourself, you cannot take care of your life and love ones.

When you are feeling depressed it is a good idea to see your doctor or therapist to discuss a plan for you.  Don’t be ashamed to discuss your feelings, fears, and the changes you are facing now that you are getting a divorce.  Your doctor can design a plan that is just right for you and your needs. But if you choose to go at it on your own, you might try changing your exercise routine, drink more water, eat a healthy diet, and rest or mediate more.  

Additionally, I suggest you lower your stress by eliminating negativity.  Being surrounded by negative things and people can make you feel depressed, too.  To top it off, start taking a high-quality daily vitamin. When your body is low in vitamin D, you are at a higher risk of feeling depressed.  Maybe you are not really depressed, but your body is acting depressed simply because you have not been resting and getting enough essential vitamins and nutrients.  

Divorce doesn’t have to be depressing…just make the changes and live again.  There is no fear in having a better life.